YSL inspired Boots

Hey guys, I know you all have seen the 10k YSL Boots. I loved them but let’s be honest my taste is more than my finances right so that was a No go! However, I decided that I could do my own version of the Boots. I did and it took me four months! 😔 sigh! Between running out of the gems and having to order more or running out of glue an easy project became a four-month TASK! It was worth it! Below you will find step by step ways to create your very own!

Things you will need: 
E6000 clear glue tubes
7 1440 gem packs in size 16


Stencil


metallic boots

Step 1: Lay the boots flat


2: apply glue to the boots in your desired location. I started at the bottom doing row by row and worked my way to the top of the boot.

Step 3: put some glue on the end of your stencil

Step 4: Apply gems to the boots

Check out my youtube tutorial: https://youtu.be/sh7e6CS7aQk

Finish product

 

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The Power of Habits

While on a casual outing with the opposite sex, a question was asked, what annoying habits do you have? I begin to ponder on that question and couldn’t think of any annoying habits. I mean I am goofy and play a lot but other than that I don’t think I have any annoying habits. However, that’s something that has to reveal itself within time.

I begin to think of the power of habits. Habits are created whether it’s good or bad. Bad habits are easy to create and do than good habits. However, every successful person has mastered the gift of discipline from habits.

For the next 21 days, I have entered into a covenant with a group of individuals that states I am going to perform four goals every day with no excuses. In this group, we have to hold each other accountable. Creating these small goals is creating good habits.

My four goals are making my bed every day, listening to a podcast, sending a motivational text and meditating for an hour. Simple goals right? Welp, it sounds easier than done; especially, when you’re used to doing things a certain way.

This past week I’ve been woken up at 3:30 a.m. – 4 a.m. for some strange reason but in that time I have been able to meditate and spend time with God. However, I am not going to lie, this morning, I told the lord to hold on because I was TIRED! between work and school and getting up that early, my body was like not today LORD! (It’s my blog and my post so don’t judge my  truth) Here is a perfect example of good habits and bad habits. I understand that the lord is waking me up that early because it’s the only time that I can spend with him before my day gets started. Good habits forming is waking up and getting in the right posture even when you don’t feel like it.

Making my bed every morning is so simple but sometimes it’s not made because I pressed the snooze button a trillion times and have to rush out the house in order to make it work. Are you catching the drifts of habits? Although I hate waking up in the morning, I am making a habit of getting up and preparing my day which includes making my bed.

So the next time, I am asked what bad habits I have, I can answer I am currently dishing the habit of lateness, procrastination, and laziness. I am replacing those habits with time management, proactive, and productive.

If you want to be successful you’ve to dish those old habits!

Single And Dating

Single, 30 and dating, you would think that this process would get easier but it actually gets harder. However, I believe that every successful relationship comes with a strategy and boundaries.

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Eventually, you become tired of playing games with the same type of men or women if you’re a man reading this post. After dating a few men and listening to them. I have come to the realization that women simply fall to fast for a man. We never think about our approach to dating. We find someone that catches our interest and then once they have it, we put all of our eggs in one basket. An ex of my mine mom told him to not put all his eggs in one basket while dating me. I was highly offended but I thank his mammy for that advice because it taught me these next principles.

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I have been the victim of playing the fantasy game. You know daydreaming of a relationship that simply doesn’t exist and preparing for a future that the other person isn’t aware of. You know it takes two to tangle so here are some principles that I am applying to dating this go round. Below are my rules for this dating game:

  1. Don’t be too available: I have things to do and this moment my time is limited so even if I have time I need for him to think that I am unavailable!
  2.  Date Multiple Men: Yep, I am dating two to three men at a time. I have let them know that while dating them that I will be seeing other people and if they decide that I am who they want then they will prove it with their actions.
  3. Boundaries: I said I was dating three men not SLEEPING with them. Yall know I am celibate by now. So I have to make sure I date in a respectable manner. Meaning I am not coming over for Netflix and chill. If you want to see me then take me out. If I want to see you then I will take you out as well. Plus, my bishop says, why buy the cow when they get it for free! Everyone woman has a vaginal but every woman isn’t me. They don’t have my personality, heart, hustle or brains!
  4. Last but not least, I won’t be so tough! My dad tells me all the time that I am headstrong and sometimes the man might like me a lot but because of my strong will they don’t know how to tell me. He then said for me to stay that way. Welp ladies, let your yes be yes and your no be no!

I am a firm believer that men are natural pursuers and if a man wants you then darling he will do whatever it takes to get you.

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This means we have to actually have something that interests them since you’re not busting it wide open for a real or maybe fake nigga. This gives you time to see who they are as a person and if you want to be involved with them. Wherein before if I would have bust it wide open then the sex would have clouded my judgment.

I am dating multiple men and I am proud of it! The moment you realize that you’re valuable and understand your worth is the moment you start acting like it.

Johnakeshia

Living In My Truth

A casual conversation between my style friends taught me the most important lesson of life! This lesson would be to live in my truth. No matter how brutal the truth is to always live in it.

That conversation stuck with me and made me accept the fact that I am no perfect! My truth is sometimes ugly but it makes a beautiful ending. My truth is also for others to be set free and live in their truth without shame!

Last night, Oprah Winfrey reminded me of those same words that left me full of zest! Oprah’s speech left women and young girls around the world inspired. She shared a story that how at a young age she watched Sidney Poitier become the first African American man to receive the Cecil B. de Mille award. Years later that same little girl is the First African American woman to receive the same award. Many other parts of her speech left the room standing on their feet as she spoke of the future for women!

However, the most important part of her speech was “What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have.”

Honey, that’s not your friend: Friendship boundaries!

Are you my friend? This has been a question that I’ve neglected for a long time. When I first meet people I never set boundaries or establish rules within a friendship. I use to assume that everyone who says that they were my friend was indeed my friend. However, studies show that was a LIE!

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I’ve always been the type of person who embraced people and brought them into my circle without questioning their character. Growing up my mom used to tell me that everyone wasn’t my friend. She would say “you’re going to get enough of being friendly to people,”well mom, I believe there is some truth to that statement. I understand now why my nanny used to tell me and my cousins that we didn’t need any friends because it was enough of us. Granted, I believe that to a certain instinct because I believe there is power in relationships. So make no mistakes I am for sisterhood friendships.

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But I believe that we have lost the meaning of friendship. To be called a friend should be a special title. Just like you will take time out to get to know a man before dating him, I believe that same rule should apply when it comes to friendships. I question my “friendships” because I realize that everyone who says they’re my friend is not my friend. I’m taking back my friendship from people who have proven to me that they’re not my friend! You know the one-sided relationships….. the ones who always want you there for them but is NEVER there for you! The shady relationship that low key throws rocks and hides their hand. If you have to question their integrity when it comes to you then that’s not your friend.

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Every girl code should have boundaries. Don’t be my friend to show me off because I tend to “look” like I’ve it together but when it comes down to doing real friendships things like being there when it counts or given sound advice, you’re ALWAYS missing. Being loyal is another MAJOR factor! There are rules to becoming my friend! That means you’re going to be loyal, honest, truthful, supportive and motivating.I am now given men and women 90 days to prove their significance in my life. Whether or not they deserve to be my friend or associate. My friends need to be held accountable and to hold me accountable! God-forbid I’d put best in front of the word friend. I mean what makes a person eligible to be a best friend? Do they surpass all of the friendship rules? Time means nothing when the rules aren’t met!

I’ve yet to mention the male species! You know the ex-lovers who you’ve decided to be friends with after they’ve mistreated you! No thank you, I don’t want your friendship either! Like sir, you couldn’t be a great lover, so it’s impossible for you to be a great friend. Casual encounters don’t make a great friendship. I encourage every reader to reflect on your friendship and if it’s not helping you grow, get rid of it!

😩😩😩😩 Goodbye toxic relationships!

Ps. If you considered yourself my friend and slightly confused by this post then step your friendship game up and don’t be afraid to tell me if I’m not a good friend!